Personal development seems like a rather hazy term for many people. Nevertheless, it is a reality that unless people actively make a decision to improve their personal position in life, they will actually regress and become less capable to react and deal with the most difficult situations.
When it comes to dealing with crisis situations people are only as good as their experience and ability to think on their feet. Some people will freeze and have no idea what to do, yet others will have a solution on the tip of their tongue. It all depends upon the mental attitude of the individual. A person who is proactive in life will be a problem solver, whereas those who are of the habit of ducking responsibility and hiding their head in the sand will become totally inept in situations like these.
Much of our ability to cope with stressful settings is built upon our approach to life in general. Many people don’t realize that a person can be trained or train themselves to be part of the solution rather than a part of, or even the cause of the problem. Many people seem overwhelmed by the slightest of problems, while others never seem to be flustered by anything. In fact, these people seem to relish being faced with difficult issues, as they seem to enjoy the overcoming of some of the most serious issues in life.
People who are the overcomers in life seem to already have an innate strategy that they bring into play very quickly. There is a mental calmness that sets the tone of approaching any challenge that comes up. They are able to develop steps to eliminate the issues that are causing the difficulty and are not afraid to jump right in and try them out. If an approach to a problem doesn’t work, then they are not afraid to try another. Their mindset is very proactive rather than just sitting back and complaining about it.
So how does one acquire this mental toughness, if they have been meek and mild-mannered all of their lives? It is fairly simple on the surface; they just have to decide that they are not going to let life run them over anymore.
The process of problem-solving originates at the level of making the decision that there has to be a positive solution to the problem. The question has to be asked, “What is the most positive outcome for this issue, and how can I make that happen?” This is a mental discipline that is a conscious process. A person literally has to take charge of situations like this, or continue to be overwhelmed by life’s simplest of problems.
Once a person begins to realize that they don’t have to duck and run every time a problem rears its ugly head, they can begin to take a more aggressive approach to get rid of problems.
Once the positive outcome is visualized then the person can begin to actively take steps to solve the issue. It is important to realize that action is the antidote to indecision and to continue to try solutions is the key to courage in problem solving and self-development in this area.